Sunday, 30 December 2012

Dale Carnegi - Abstract


Carnegie was also like Franklin in that he saw the amassing of wealth merely as a means to an end, an end the men shared—retiring early, becoming a man of culture and letters, writing, doing public service, and being an active citizen. Carnegie was not only a “captain of industry,” but a husband and father, an abolitionist and peace activist, a writer and world traveler. And he was one of the greatest philanthropists of all time.

Abstract from - the following link

Wednesday, 19 December 2012

2013: An Optimistic Call for Reflection, Reassessment & Action

Move before you are ready... Any result-oriented individual that's always focused on moving forward must be willing to accept challenges outside their comfort zone. Only by abandoning our familiar "safe place", can we truly discover our inner strengths. In the Chinese language, the symbol that represents crises comprises of  two characters; danger and opportunity.

Semantically speaking, if we look deep enough, there's an opportunity that lies in every difficulty. This is more than just a "glass-half-empty or half-full" analogy - this is short mantra that holds the key to greatness for all those who are willing to accept it.

A wise man once said, "Those that look are many, but those that see are few". The next time you're met with some sort of opposition - before you blindly react and fold under the pressure, take a few seconds to reassess the situation and see any new opportunity that might be lurking in the shadows. This strategy can help us switch gears in life from a dormant/reactive state to an alert/active state.

Don't shy away from difficulty or sudden challenges, take the time to reassess the situation and you might find an advantage. I'll round this post up with a favorite quote of mine by Thomas Edison; " Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work".

Wednesday, 12 December 2012

Mastery by Robert Greene

Just reading Robert's new book and I'm really excited about it. The first time I read his first Best Seller was in 1998 - The 48 Laws of Power. I'm an avid fan and I look to apply most (not all) of his strategic advise on how to live life to the best of my abilities.




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Sunday, 1 July 2012

Five Tips to Help Strengthen Will Power


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." Mahatma Gandhi


Gandhi wasn't physically a huge man but he will forever be remembered for breaking the British shackles from the  Indian colony...

According to Baumeister, willpower is not a personality trait, a skill or a virtue. Instead, it operates like a muscle. And as such, it can be strengthened - but also easily exhausted (Baumeister 2003).

Act in line with our highest goals, and not with our immediate appetites. 

Challenges are there to limit successes, but with the right attitude and willpower we still can achieve extraordinary feats...

In the 1960s, Walter Mischel tested four-year-old children for self-control in "The Marshmallow Test": the children were each given a marshmallow and told that they can eat it anytime they want, but if they waited 15 minutes, they would receive another marshmallow. Follow up studies showed that the results correlated well with these children's success levels in later life.

Focus on long term goals... like a career path... 


Five Tips to Help Strengthen Will Power

  1. Reset your internal hard drive: Know thyself... Focus on your goal: Intensity beats extensity every time... "You are the only person on earth who has your ability." Zig Zigler
  2. Surround yourself with the right people: "Tis better to be alone than in bad company." George Washington. Understand the demand placed on you by your relationships and prioritize.
  3. Get to work: Stop analyzing, over thinking or doubting... start doing... read biographies, research alternatives, ask people.... keep working on it... "I don't wait for moods. You accomplish nothing if you do that. Your mind must know it has got to get down to work." - Pearl S. Buck
  4. Believe: “You may fetter my leg, but Zeus himself cannot get the better of my free will” Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135. Fear Nothing: Nihil Timendum Est. You're never failing once you're trying... the only true failure is failing to try...
  5. Take good care of your physical body: Eat well, sleep well and dress well and every other thing you do will be done well...

References:
http://www.ideafit.com/library/how-to-strengthen-willpower-part-1
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Men of Honor!

I can't propose that everyone wants to be the best they can and live life the right way, but for those of us that do... here's a tip for change... Lead a life of honor... Respect authority, our parents, our spouses, our relatives and everyone we come across. We may not agree with others all the time but because of our quest to become the best, we'll honor them.

The irony of such an ideology is that some people may think that they are being honorable for the sake of others, but that's not the case... We lead honorable lives for ourselves. We're the ones that have to live with ourselves anyway.

Men of honor keep their head up and do what's right out of respect for themselves.

It's true that sometimes we may fall off the wayside of the track we would like to live, but a great philosopher once said, "It's not where you stand that matters, but the direction you are going".

Let's continue to sow seeds of greatness in our lives by living honorably and kick negatives like pride, jealousy, sarcasm and disrespect out the door. Remember, this doesn't mean we're weak, but it shows our strength to deliver upon our own expectations.








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http://www.du.edu/studentlife/studentconduct/honorcode.html


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Wednesday, 30 May 2012

A Better Man Post #1


“ No longer talk at all about the kind of man a good man ought to be, but be such. ”
— Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

Saturday, 28 April 2012

STRATEGY; The Art of Transforming Ideas Into Action

Focus on a lifestyle that bridges the gap between knowing and doing.


With each passing day, moment, second... life is slipping away... Make it count by being the best every moment requires.


"Space we can recover. Time, never." Napoleon Bonaparte

Tuesday, 27 March 2012

"A man's whole life is a succession of moment after moment".


If one fully understands the present moment,
there will be nothing else to do, and nothing else to pursue. 

Live being true to the single purpose of the moment."


Yamamoto Tsunetomo


Saturday, 25 February 2012

Employ the Key of Confidence... Always...

Constantly second guessing yourself is very dangerous. Fortune is a woman and whoever wants her must be adventurous, as opposed to proceeding cautiously. I love the way Robert Greene shed more light on the subject of confidence in chapter 28 of his bestseller, "The 48 Laws of Power". He says, Enter Actions with Boldness: If you are unsure of a course of action, don't attempt it. Hesitation puts obstacles in your path, boldness eliminates them."

In life, not many people get second chances... It's not a Nintendo game, there's no replay button... Move ahead, forge forward with confidence and if you're lucky and you have a second chance of doing it again... Then make it better. 

I have no doubt in my mind that the human being is an amazing machine... a machine which, if maintained and efficiently maximized, can do miracles... As individuals, opportunities are limitless for those who eliminate the barriers of fear. Don't be a scientific calculator with an an owner who uses it for only basic arithmetic.

A favorite quote of mine goes thus, "On the lands of hesitation, lay the bones of countless millions who on the dawn of their victory lay down to rest, and while resting they died"...

I'll end this heartfelt rant and begin my weekend with the following Latin line: 

Nihil Timendum Est... 

Fear Nothing.

Thursday, 12 January 2012

Saturday, 31 December 2011

B.A., M.A., Ph. D. & Everything Else!

On the first day of 2011, a friend of mine called and asked what I had planned for 2011? I answered without a second's hesitation, "To keep moving forward"... Today, the last day of 2011, I thought I'll pen a few words to mark the occasion.

In a sense, I have moved forward. I've been to places I've never imagined, both geographical and situational. I've stood in harms way to help complete strangers in ways that are most humbling, I've earned much more money than I ever had in a single year and I endured the most painful loss of the single most influential person in my life; my father. Come to think of it... In the midst of all that... At the end of 2011, I have moved forward and I'm still here...

My father always humorously recited the following joke. "Earning a B.A. degree means; Begin Again. Earning an M.A. degree means; More After and earning a Ph.D. degree means; to Push Harder Daily".

In essence, regardless of one's success in life, one thing should always remain paramount. Never to rest on your laurels.

That's the plan for 2012! Don't Rest on Your Laurels!





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Thursday, 22 December 2011

Leadership & Legacy; Beginning with the End in Mind


"No one can go back and make a new start, but anyone can start from here and make a brand new end"... It's never too late to build a leadership legacy you'll be proud of. At the end of your current position, after your academic/professional career, at the end of your life... what message would you like to be remembered by? These questions go a long way in shaping the person we choose to be and the message we would like to leave behind.

Leadership, as a topic, has been a major point of discussion for centuries and we're still redefining the concept, learning its diverse array of theories and experimenting on what styles best fit our identity. The dimension of your current role isn't as important as leaving a message for others that inspires achievement, improvement and sustainability.

As an older sibling, a parent, teacher, a manager or CEO, regardless of our scale of influence, we are all leaders and the earlier we embrace this role and learn as much as possible, the better. Be it short term, long term or even over a lifetime... any activity we carry out should be an opportunity to be a positive example to others.


I've always believed in beginning with the end in mind. Having a vision aids our execution along the way. Focus on the message, play with the concept and eventually your heart will settle on a brand message that fits.


The greatest leaders have shaped their legacies this way, building ideals that inspire others; Martin Luther King Jr. had a dream, Obama: Hope, Einstein: Intuition and imagination, Steve Jobs: Innovation & Design, my father: Education and Faith, and many others who have blazed the trails of success and taught us how to be better people and inspiring leaders.


Here are my 5 essential elements necessary to building the ultimate leadership legacy:

1. Consistent Message: 
A common Latin saying goes as such; "Repetition is the mother of learning". Practice whatever ideals you want to be remembered by and make sure you believe in them 100%... and if that single model, be it tenacity, attitude, grit, integrity, does not fit so well as your vanguard mantra, then change it... but it's very important to pay attention to your brand message  as well as its growth and development.

2. Define Your Expertise: 
To build anything that will last, impeccable quality is paramount. You know what they say about a "Jack of all trades"! Your work, your job, your responsibility to delivering quality products speaks volumes. Look for a niche you can perform better than anyone else and apply yourself to it. We're all unique and there are certain assignments that best fit our skill set other than others. History shows that people who have left behind dynamite legacies are those who found something they loved doing and applied a good amount of enthusiasm.

3. Execute Your Strategy Regardless of Convenience: 
To build a true image that stands the test of time does not happen by coincidence. You will require the necessary ingredients of champions; discipline, tenacity, persistence and patience. Of course, if these characteristics were so easy to embrace then everyone will be a champion. We must remember that there is a gap between knowing and doing and the more we actually bridge this gap the closer we are to becoming the leader we hope to be.

4. Focus on Doing the Best You Can, Not Perfection:
Of course, we say it all the time, "To err is human" or "No one is perfect"... and no one is expected be be... but what is most important, all the time, is to deliver on our word. Even delivering on our expectations or that of others 100% of the time might seem like an impossible feat, - One helpful tip in this area is to focus for five minutes: Starting is the hardest part; for your toughest tasks. This way you don't waste time procrastinating and once you begin, be patient enough to check, recheck and double check your work.

5. Human Capital:
"Coming together is a beginning, staying together is progress, and working together is success" - Henry Ford; the first to apply assembly line manufacturing to mass production of affordable automobiles. He understood that the greatest asset of any organization was not the financial resources or latest technology, but human capital. As an individual, what makes us better people is appreciating the importance of relationships, both professional and personal, and valuing life itself. It doesn't matter whether you're dealing with top talent or not, everyone deserves respect and courtesy - Politeness is to humans, like warmth is to wax.

A very inspiring example of someone with incredible leadership legacy is that of Dr. Randy Pausch; who is popularly known for delivering "the Last Lecture" at Carnegie Mellon University. What I learned most from his story is to live the right way and enabling the dreams of others.


To view the full version of "Last Lecture" at Carnegie Mellon University on Youtube, click here

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http://lcmsseventeen.blogspot.com/2010/03/beginning-with-end-in-mind.html
http://influence-people-brian.blogspot.com/2011/04/consistency-vs-authority-which-to-use.html
http://lewishistoricalsociety.com/wiki2011/tiki-read_article.php?articleId=126
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZNTEGQCAbyI&feature=related



Friday, 18 November 2011

Fight Complacency - Play Every Gig as if its Your Last


"There was once a man who thought he was better than me, and he was, until he had that thought". Anonymous.


This particular quote has floated in my head for well over five years now. An old college friend had recited it and I immediately adopted it as my mantra, even though I had not completely wrapped my head around its meaning. What most fascinates me about the quote is its multiple levels of interpretation.


A few days ago I crossed paths with a very influential authority figure; one who appreciates good poetry, and as we sparked up a very engaging discussion on motivation, leadership and strength, I asked him about the quote; "There was once a man who thought he was better than me, and he was, until he had that thought." He replied, "If I want to kill a gnat, I'll hit it with a sledge hammer."


As we grow older and increase our level of expertise on a varied array of subjects, we tend to get too comfortable. Over time, our complacency increases the risk of us over valuing our strengths and becoming less and less thorough in handling our affairs. As a result, we make the mistake of digging our own grave - metaphorically of course.


Our mistake is not giving a particular assignment our full attention, especially tasks in which we assume are our "areas of expertise". In essence, "Complacency is a state of mind that exists only in retrospective: it has to be shattered before being ascertained". Vladimir Nabokov.








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